Maintain your old Siemens Hipath system

Parasitic Relationship

Something in my life is weighing heavily on my mind, and I don't talk to anyone about it. I married my husband when he was 21 and I was 20. After being married six months I found out I was pregnant with our daughter. She was and is the apple of our eyes. She just graduated from college and is doing well in her new career.

Our marriage was not easy. It was constant chaos. I felt as though I had a baby and a 15-year-old son. My husband drank, stayed out late, and when he was home, I was told I had better make it worth his time. I come from a strict Catholic family, and it never entered my mind that divorce was an option.

I kept trying to be a better wife, whether that meant cooking, being sexier for him, wearing makeup all the time, or keeping my house spick and span. When our daughter left for college, it was hard for me. I asked my husband to help me through the process. He told me people want to get rid of their kids and that I should "get a life."

Our daughter had not been at school more than a few months when she called me at work one day. She was on the computer doing school work and noticed Dad had come home from work and was talking to someone online. She asked if I knew who it was. That was when the nightmare began.

We found love letters between him and a married woman. I felt helpless. It was starting again. Five years ago a woman told me my husband was cheating with a good "couple friend" we had. We would get together with this couple to play cards, and our children played together. Apparently this woman went to my husband, said she was not happy with her sex life, and said she knew I was happy and she wanted a piece of the action.

My husband agreed. He claimed he was doing her a favor, and it was like a job for him. I have since learned of his involvement with at least three other women. This is my question to you. I'm 44, attractive, slim, with a good job. My husband says he has changed, but for some strange reason I can't believe him.

He asked me to get a boob job and told me all men like big boobs. That basically makes me feel I am worth nothing. I fear my husband looks at our marriage and thinks he may as well stay at this stage of the game because he is 46 and doesn't want to start over now. My daughter wants me to move in with her, and I feel I would be better off.

Mitzi

Mitzi, the pill bug is a small creature that seeks damp, dark places. Occasionally, however, the pill bug eats the eggs of a tiny worm, and when that happens, a worm hatches inside the pill bug and changes its behavior. The infected pill bug becomes a risk taker who seeks open spaces, where it is likely to be eaten by starlings. This is fine for the worm, which thrives inside the bird, but it is death for the pill bug.

Biologists define symbiosis as the relationship between two creatures who rely upon each other. The relationship is called mutualistic if both creatures benefit; if only one benefits, the relationship is called parasitic. Marriage is supposed to be a mutualistic relationship.

Every religious and legal system allows for divorce in the case of unfaithfulness. Even in the strictest systems of belief, adultery is the one thing which need not be tolerated in marriage, and the Christian expression of this idea is found in Matthew 19:9.

Your husband told you to "get a life." What a great suggestion. Go get one!

Wayne & Tamara

Direct Answers - Column for the week of March 15, 2004

About The Author

Authors and columnists Wayne and Tamara Mitchell can be reached at www.WayneAndTamara.com.

Send letters to: Direct Answers, PO Box 964, Springfield, MO 65801 or email: DirectAnswers@WayneAndTamara.com.

In The News:

Frightened Rohingya fleeing to avoid Myanmar return
Wed, 14 Nov 2018 17:13:00 +0000
Hussein Ahmed’s wife and children are missing.

Frozen 'super-Earth' could support life, experts say
Wed, 14 Nov 2018 18:17:00 +0000
A frozen "super-Earth" discovered six light years from Earth could be capable of harbouring life, scientists have said.

CIA considered using truth serum on al Qaeda suspect
Wed, 14 Nov 2018 00:05:00 +0000
CIA interrogators considered using a truth serum on an al Qaeda suspect after waterboarding and other "enhanced interrogation techniques" failed to get the answers they wanted, according to newly declassified documents.

58 dead in California wildfires as first victims named
Wed, 14 Nov 2018 02:56:00 +0000
The first of the victims of the California wildfires have been named by officials in the north of the state.

Searching for bodies after devastating California wildfires
Wed, 14 Nov 2018 08:01:00 +0000
The mood has suddenly changed in Paradise.



tikatoshop.it

Erfahrungen mit Pallhuber Wein
Agen Bola SBOBET Terpercaya

Travel in comfort and at your leisure with CT Airlink Limousine & Car Service for top quality private transportation and exceptional customer service. We operate Sedans, SUVs & Vans for CT Car Services to covering all Connecticut airports including Car Service from CT to Newark Airport , Mohegan Casino Uncasville CT, Foxwoods Casino Mashantucket CT, Manhattan Cruise Terminal NYC, Brooklyn Cruise Terminal NYC and Bayonne Cruise Terminal NJ. CT Airlink hire licensed and friendly chauffeurs who have in-depth knowledge of the Areas.

Stop, Look, & Listen: The 3-Step Approach to Understanding Your Partner

IntroductionDo you feel misunderstood by your partner? Seem to keep... Read More

Why Its Important to Stay in Contact with Your Friends when Youre in a Relationship

So often when we begin to enter into a new... Read More

Relationhip Advice: 10 Magic Words

Just about every night at our house, we read a... Read More

Are You Looking for Ms. Right or Mr. Not so Wrong?

Do you want to find the "love of your life?"It's... Read More

Thinking Lingerie on Super Sunday?

February will bring with it one of the most important... Read More

Relationship Spring Cleaning by Susan Sheppard

History doesn't belong in a relationship that is presentMy friend,... Read More

True Love - Part 1

True Love! We all dream of being in love with... Read More

Let Kissing Liven Up Your Meetings (and More Kissing Tips)

Every now and then a quarrel breaks out down at... Read More

Seduction Secrets For Men Part 3 - A Wonderful Idea To Spice Up Your Existing Relationships

There is a cool little game for spicing up your... Read More

Approval - You Dont Need It

Yesterday, after receiving a massage to help ease my computer-aided... Read More

Amaze Your Lover - 16 Romantic Ideas To Keep Them Happy

Some people have a natural ability to romance the oppposite... Read More

When Your Relationships Turn Abusive - What You Can Do

Sometimes the people who are the closest to us, our... Read More

The Real Way for Men to WOW the Woman They Love

Guys, I know the struggle, you want to give her... Read More

Real Solutions For Combatting Extreme Shyness

Most people experience some degree of shyness from time to... Read More

Great Relationship Advice: The Ability to Communicate

In my workshops with couples, I start with this question:"How... Read More

Before Falling Truly and Madly in Love Ask Each Other 10 Pertinent Questions

Falling in love?aaahh what a wonderful experience the first flushes... Read More

Relationship Advice: 10 Ways to Survive a Break Up

Break ups are never easy. You are a bundle of... Read More

Setting Boundaries: Business Clients and Boyfriends

Setting boundaries is necessary in any human relationship.Whether you're dealing... Read More

Second Fiddle

I have been seeing a married man for the past... Read More

How A Phony Persona Always Hurts You

'Be yourself', isn't that what you've always heard? It certainly... Read More

Coping With A New Culture: Problems And Solutions

Coping with a new culture has never been the easiest... Read More

Spouse Improvement: Influence Your Partner to Change in Just 7 Steps

Everyone has something they'd like to change in their partner.... Read More

Improve Your Relationship by Taking Care of Yourself First

It's important for you to take care of yourself before... Read More

How to Build Solid Relationships Using the Power of Words

We may not be aware of it; but the words... Read More

My Fairy Tale Is Gone

Dear Candace,My girlfriend and I recently split up. I called... Read More