Maintain your old Siemens Hipath system

Couples - Learn to Work Together to Solve Problems

Q. There has to be some way around the continuing battle in our marriage. Both my wife and I like to do things our own way and have things our own way, and so we fight for our own way. Doing it all my way does not work; doing it all her way does not work. This thing is tearing us apart. Can you recommend some way to help us?

A. Are you familiar with the three rings of marriage?

They are the engagement ring, the wedding ring, and the suffer-ring.

A great amount of the suffering in marriage comes from the very battle which you describe in your letter. It's human nature to want to be right and to have things our own way. Some of us raise this to the level of an art form or mandate for life.

The problem is that always doing it your way or always doing it the other person's way will not work over time.

In marriage, the person who always insists on "my way or the highway" will likely become familiar with the highway. You may get to be right - whatever that means - but you do so at the expense of distancing your partner. Always doing it your way limits your potential problem-solving ability since you are using only one brain when two are at your disposal.

One of the best ways to build resentment in someone is to always demand your way.

Some people try to solve this dilemma by just letting their partners always have their way. While this may temporarily keep the peace, it does not last. Little resentments build over time. This process is typically followed by a huge explosion over something that appears to be just a little thing.

One of the many myths of marriage is that our spouse is going to think, or should think, just as we do; we often are offended when he or she doesn't.

In marriage, you do not have to think alike. You do, however, need to think together. Thinking together means becoming like-minded. It does not mean that you think alike, or even always agree. It means you take two sets of ingredients, the best of your thinking and ideas and the best thinking and ideas of your partner, blend them, and come up with solutions that you never would have been able to reach alone.

Jeff Herrring, MS, LMFT is a marriage and family therapist, relationship coach, speaker and nationally syndicated relationship columnist, and founder and CEO of http://www.Couples-Connection.com You can email Jeff at jeff@couples-connection.com and sign up for his free internet newsletter "Couples-Connection on his website at http://www.Couples-Connection.com

In The News:

Pay $40k and risk brutal murder: Getting into US illegally
Thu, 18 Oct 2018 19:00:00 +0100


'The town at the end of the universe'
Thu, 18 Oct 2018 17:44:00 +0100
A cloud of black wings rise into the air releasing a foul smell of rotting flesh.

Supermodel Karlie Kloss weds Joshua Kushner
Fri, 19 Oct 2018 09:23:00 +0100
Supermodel Karlie Kloss has married Joshua Kushner, confirming they have tied the knot in a picture post on social media.

UK arms sales to Saudi Arabia rise by two thirds
Thu, 18 Oct 2018 11:25:00 +0100
UK military sales to Saudi Arabia increased by two thirds in 2017 from 2016 - an increase of more than £450m, Sky News can reveal.

Forest searched in hunt for Khashoggi remains
Thu, 18 Oct 2018 20:59:00 +0100
Investigators are searching a forest outside Istanbul in a bid to find the remains of Saudi journalist Jamal Khashoggi.



tikatoshop.it

Erfahrungen mit Pallhuber Wein
Agen Bola SBOBET Terpercaya

Travel in comfort and at your leisure with CT Airlink Limousine & Car Service for top quality private transportation and exceptional customer service. We operate Sedans, SUVs & Vans for CT Car Services to covering all Connecticut airports including Car Service from CT to Newark Airport , Mohegan Casino Uncasville CT, Foxwoods Casino Mashantucket CT, Manhattan Cruise Terminal NYC, Brooklyn Cruise Terminal NYC and Bayonne Cruise Terminal NJ. CT Airlink hire licensed and friendly chauffeurs who have in-depth knowledge of the Areas.

7 Myths About Good Guys

It is every woman's dream to meet a "Good Guy"... Read More

Affairs: What an Affair Really Is and What an Affair Really Does

We hear about it all the time - in magazines,... Read More

Love or Lust

Do you know what the definition of love is? This... Read More

When Your Relationships Turn Abusive - What You Can Do

Sometimes the people who are the closest to us, our... Read More

How to Use Humor to Improve Your Relationships

Humor has long been considered one of the most effective... Read More

Love is not Something you Say, Its Something you Do

Many have problems with communication and using that "love" word.... Read More

What Type of a Kisser Are You?

As we all know, there are many types of kiss.... Read More

Is Your Relationship Worth Fighting For

Sometimes when a relationship has gone sour, our efforts are... Read More

Don?t Snuff Out Expressions of Liking

It is hard to express all the emotions to somebody... Read More

Five Easy Steps to Creating Your Dream Relationship

Millions of singles across the world are looking to create... Read More

Why Men Cheat

"Big, little or short or tall, Wish I could have... Read More

Relationships That Really Last: Is This the Secret?

In my e-book, How to Build Relationships That Stick, I... Read More

Loves All About Chemistry

People who have been swept off their feet know the... Read More

Long Distance Love

Before the advent of the internet, long-distance relationships were rare.... Read More

Men Love Women Who Initiate Sex ? 4 Fun Ways to Do It

This is a sizzling hot topic for a lot of... Read More

Are You Living An Illusion Romance Like Lisa Snowdon and George Clooney?

My Dear Lover,Today I am sad, I don't have good... Read More

Yellow and Orange Flags in Relationships

It's been said that love is blind. It may also... Read More

How to Start a Conversation With a Woman

Last week I had the easiest pick up and seduction... Read More

How to Turn Down Invitations Gracefully

All of us occasionally receive social invitations that we don't... Read More

To Love Forever

Emotionally healthy men and women almost always share their lives... Read More

The Key to Ending Pain With Others

It has taken me 40 years to learn exactly how... Read More

Relationships: Last a Lifetime

Stepping into a new position brought along a few surprises.... Read More

Why You Should Be Happy You Caught Your Partner Cheating

The dictionary defines infidelity as "unfaithfulness to a sexual partner".... Read More

How To Make Hooking Up With Your Ex More Thrilling Than It Ever Was Before!

Now I really have seen everything.The other day, I saw... Read More

Why Do Men and Women Misunderstand Each Other So Much

Joke from a Woman to another Woman "Some husbands are... Read More